The South Island viewed from Titahi Bay beach north end platform. We have some beautiful vistas. It's pretty cool to stand on the North Island and view this.
The south end of the beach where we usually play and explore along the rocky coastal area.
And the north end with a glimpse of Mana Island in the foreground, and the South Island in the background. It never ceases to amaze me that our kids will one day think of this place as their childhood home. No matter how where I live, or what beach I stand on, there is always one place in particular that calls to me ... Ahipara or the 90-Mile Beach where I was raised. But that was my home, not theirs. Ko Titahi Bay te kainga for my boys.
Acoss the road is the wonderful Aunt Daisy's cafe, a new and loved icon in the Bay. Thank God for Aunt Daisy's. It has given the Bay a touch of 'Cuba Street' goodness way out here in the burbs. Yet it is full of nostalgic retro goodness and yummy food and coffee. I love drinking from vintage china tea cups and having a date scone. I met with my friend Cheryl last week and while I waited tried to wade through some of my art book work that is due. We had a lovely catch up time with the sounds of Bob Marley in the background and the regular flow of locals coming for their morning fix. If you are in the Bay, you cannot pass this place up. Or else.
This past weekend, our local city gallery hosted a textile extravaganza in conjunction with it's current textile exhibition. As part of our group project, my colleagues and I organised a display of our work as textile students. The project was titled "Making our Mark" and was designed to show our semester's work of surface exploration. I hope we smash the myth that we are only about creating costumes for shows and competitions. Having said that, we were surrounded by lots of textile specialists all displaying their expertise in various forms. Guilds, weavers, lacemakers, dyeing specialists, and artists all filled the gallery. There was definitely a buzz in the gallery and I appreciated the public's interest in my work. I also attended a Shibori dyeing workshop with local craftswoman Kathy Mclaughlin on Sunday who kindly demonstrated different techniques. I must admit though I get a bit iffy about chemical dyes but for sure, the esults were stunning.
Yes 'Kiri' (or 'Skins') put in another appearance this weekend alongside other colleagues work. I was encouraged by how many people commented on this particular piece. I was reluctant to spend much time at the gallery, being the weekend, it's a busy time in our home but in the moments I managed to get away, I was happily surprised with the interest it generated.
Details of my stitched 'hikoi' containing dyed samples of silk from my kainga, Porirua.
Three coconut shells buttons I salvaged from Trash Palace to represent my three kids (ok, so one is on the way) and the stitching is the tracks we leave in the sand and along the hills as we explore our environment.
Almost another month has gone by ...
since my last post. My friend Trisha grumbled she was tired of seeing John Pule's big ole self on my blog. It's funny isn't it, how some months I can't wait to write and other months it's like drawing blood from stone. It's almost schizophrenic sometimes - days where life carries on as normal and then those other kinds of days ... the ones that force me underground, to slow down, breathe and wait for things to pass. Not quite depression, not as debilitating but still a little scary, like being dunked underwater and waiting to be let up again. Still I have learned a lot over the years, what makes me tick and how I impact those around me. How to take care of myself when I need to and ensure that I inform others where things are at for me. I am spending lots of time on my own (which is kinda unusual for me), quietly and gently picking my way through each day.
Thank God babies continue to grow without my need to think or feel or do anything. I am still in the first half of my pregnancy, only just and I have lots of good thoughts now about this new person coming into our lives. I am still not resigned to a whole lot of things but I have a confidence regarding the future that is firmly entrenched in my faith in God. I have battled with all my pregnancies which seems a funny way to put it but it is a fight of sorts. One where I cling to my faith that 'all will be well' when it doesn't seem that way. Hope I guess.
Still I have two gorgeous sons who are growing into lovely funny men. That's how I see them. Not stuck in childhood but one day becoming amazing men who will contribute positively to this world we live in. I often feel a bit odd because it doesn't seem the normal thing, not to be 'happy, happy, joy, joy' regarding being pregnant and babies. Heaven help me from the other kind of woman who also think we should be all working, studying, running marathons and raising families without any kind of let up. I have met proponents of both parties and have not found them helpful. I am daunted, daunted by the incredible responsibility that falls to us to be stewards of these small children. To do them no harm, to raise them well and securely and lovingly, to be role models and mentors and teachers and carers, and to inject lots of fun and enjoyment into the experience along the way ... It is a big job. I never feel quite prepared. The evidence speaks otherwise however in that our kids have amazing reports from their teachers, they are popular amongst their peers and we enjoy them immensely.
I was speaking with some close friends recently and knowing my childhood story, they think it may be remnants of my childhood trauma that contribute to my experience of feeling 'invaded' and 'put upon'. As a child I was surrounded by a few unsavoury and unhealthy characters who left me with a lot of baggage to deal with as an adult. Much of that has been dealt with through therapy, self-awareness and the largest measure, spiritual growth (FORGIVENESS). I could buy them a coffee now and sit with them, forgive them and bless them. Sounds pretty unreal but's it's true. The anger and bitterness is no longer in me. It's just on the rare occasion like this, where I find myself in a situation where I have no control that other feelings arise and almost consume me. Fear and helplessness rank high amongst them, which is odd because my life is pretty spectacular by all counts. My husband is incredibly supportive and we have never been closer. We have enough money now to live week to week so the financial pressures we once experienced have lessened. Our health is good. Our home is lovely. Our kids are fine. Yet I have days where I am feel like I am swimming through molasses even though NOTHING IS ACTUALLY WRONG. Bizzare.
Being a trained counsellor and having been in practice I recognise the signs. I am on some levels able to continue to function where once I would have come undone and remained undone for months at a time. This is not a sign of weakness. Many of my past clients would feel shame for not being able to cope. However sometimes our bodies or minds or both will shut down without us seeming to be able to do much about it. This is actually a coping mechanism. A chance to take a look at our lives, take stock and make changes that will be kinder on ourselves.
I read a great article in 'O' magazine (yes, Oprah's, I got a stack of them from a library sale for 20c each). The article discussed our fear of doing 'nothing'. Yet ideally it is what most of us strive for. Time to be, time for ourselves to do what we wish to be doing. Most of us fill up our lives with work, computers, relationships, phone calls, tv, and in general busyness. The more modern efficiency gadgets we have, the more we cram into a day.
Take art school for example. I have always loved to create. I love creative folk. I love creative atmospheres. Still I can sometimes use the busyness it can bring to avoid doing the other things in my life I need to do as well.
A form of 'being' I enjoy at the moment happens in the middle of the night. I often awaken because I cannot sleep or need to pee or need a drink or have a book I cannot put down. I love to lie still and sometimes feel a glimmer of movement in my belly. It is very grounding to feel that little life in there and wonder about it. Funny because lying in the next room are two very real little boys, but this one is more mysterious. I lie there wondering what blessing is wrapped up in this baby. Are we having a boy or girl? (I honestly don't care but the dynamics of our family will certainly change if it's a girl). How will this baby impact the other two? It's such a private thing pregnancy. I always get rather introspective.
So next semester (which lasts from July-November), I am going part time in my studies. Richard breathes a sigh of relief, he knows my desire to stay connected but he also knows better than I can judge anyway, this is a good move for all of us. I need time to myself, space to 'be' without having to conform to any pressures. The only deadline I have room for currently is this baby's birthday.
Amidst all of this the creativity has continued to happen, albeit fragmentedly. I have to admit I have ceased to allow pressure to motivate me. If people pressure me, I can feel my heels digging in further. Such a change from my 20's when I was so eager to please. I remember thinking older women were difficult and stuck in their ways, but now as I approach 40, I can see why. Still I love fun and that keep's me sane. I love a good laugh, a good read, a good day off to lounge around in pj's with the kids and watch movies, a good cuddle with my gorgeous husband, a fun day treasure hunting along the shore.
We are currently going to a church in the city called Arise. We have been welcomed warmly and enjoy the youthful atmosphere. A little different from our last church. Having met with the leaders of this church, and we are confident of their love for God and their people. They have big hearts and a giant capacity for spiritual growth in this city. That much is certain. We also attended the local Salvation Army in Tawa and enjoyed the community feeling in that church too. The children enjoy the programmes each church has to offer. I love meeting Christian folk and seeing all the good things God is doing through His people all over this city.
We also farewelled two very loved people in our lives this past week. Our former pastors, Coral and Campbell have moved on to new pastures in Auckland where they will no doubt continue to impact the nation we live in. We also got to hang out with many old friends and in a way say our own goodbyes. It was seriously the closing of an old chapter so some sadness was involved yet still the excitement of what lies ahead for all of us remains. Our lives are better for knowing this couple who inspired us, led us and loved us. We pray for their journey ahead to be all it can be.
My husband and I have been united in prayer and heart about the calling we feel God has on our lives. We are prayerfully seeking guidance for our futures and the theme seems to be 'waiting'.
I love the scripture in the old testament book of Isaiah ...
"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall rise up on wings like eagles. They shall walk and not grow weary, they shall run and not faint."
Proverbs also says ...
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths."
So lots of wonderful changes this year, some that leave me breathless, others that leave me comforted. Mostly though, I have a very real sense of finally feeling 'present', no longer living in the past, not so much governed by what will happen in the future. But most definitely a sense of doing today well.